An Ode to Our Dependable Friends
A love letter of sorts
If you asked 10 people to describe me not a single of one them would use the word reliable or dependable. I wouldn’t take it as an insult but a mere fact of life. My family often jokes about how to not call me in an emergency or ask me to do anything with a deadline. I can produce consistently good work… but if you’re asking me to do it in time? Forget about it. I have accepted this about myself a long time ago. For the most part I’ve learn how to stop over extending myself or not to make promises I cannot realistically keep. Of course as the nature of the beast goes I slip up from time to time, but again most people aren’t expecting Goodyear guarantees out of me.
I think about my friends and my family that I have been blessed to surround myself with, the ones that the words “solid”, “dependable”, or “reliable” immediately come to mind for. The ones that are there every time I call, every time I ask, every time I text, and I feel a sense of admiration for them. Those friends who you bring a problem to and they have a least 2 solutions thought up before you can finish. Of course sometimes it’s annoying but I admire their ability to stay level headed and solution oriented. The ones who it would raise a flag if they weren’t available in some shape or form. The ones that I would immediately know if they were kidnapped because their lack of response would set off a dozen internal alerts for me (a stark contrast to someone who like me who regularly disappears at will.)
I recently had one of those friends not be able to be there right at the moment I needed them. If I’m being honest usually I would panic, but I realized, this same friend has given me so much grace to be as flaky as I needed. Did they not deserve the same? I want to dedicate this post to those friends who have given me grace and shown me love and understanding. I want to send that same love and grace to those Type A friends that sometimes need a break. Those friends who get exhausted with a full plate. I want y’all know we (your type b bandits) appreciate you and we acknowledge how keeping up with everything isn’t easy.
If I had to describe myself it’d be an unstoppable force, but I thank God for those run ins with my friends I could describe as immovable objects. So I dedicate this to those friends of ours.The first to call, the first to answer, those who rise to the occasion every time. Those who probably have an earth sign placement in their big three, for the astrology people. Those who are secretly just as unhinged as me, but keep it classy for the public, don’t worry I’ll keep this between you and me. Those who sometimes need that extra nudge from their unreliable friend to let go of control and let their hair down a little. I see you guys and I appreciate y’all for seeing me.
Check in with your dependable friends. They probably need a stiff drink and to relax a bit!
